Transformation

Help, I Feel Like I'm 5 Again!

If you’ve been in a romantic relationship for any length of time you are probably familiar with the feeling of shifting from being lovey-dovey with your partner to thinking he or she is completely out to get you—and that shift can sometimes happen in a split second.  

If you’ve ever had this experience, you’re not alone.  

Almost everyone who has ever been in a romantic relationship has experienced this at some point in their relationship. When it happens, it’s usually related to the some issue you’ve had before:
Your partner didn’t put the cup in the sink, again!
Your partner left their socks in the middle of the room, again!
Your partner didn’t take the trash out to the street, again!
Your partner was out with their friends all night long, again!
Your partner’s mother invited herself over without letting you know, again!

If Your Relationship Triggers You, Here's Why...

One of the reasons we love working with relationships here at the Center for Soulful Relationships is because life is all about relationships. 

Relationships have the power to lift us up and bring us great joy. And, they also have the power to bring us down into the depths of despair. 

Our intimate romantic partnerships, especially, is where all the magic happens. 

If you feel like your relationship started off filled with love, you had an instant connection with your partner, the sparks flew, and it felt like you had known one another for years, the reality is: You probably have. 

Liberating Yourself this 4th of July

As you prepare to celebrate the 4th of July, celebrating our independence as a nation, your heart might be feeling the balance between the celebration and the heaviness of how can we allow ourselves to celebrate when our country is in such deep turmoil?

Children are still being torn from their parents and detained in detention facilities reminiscent of concentration camps and internment camps... Roe v Wade might be overturned... California might separate into two different states... race relations continue to be slow in improving and divisiveness continues to prevail. 

That's why today I want to share with you this video about what you can do to make the changes our country and our world so badly need right now. 

The Grief of Losses Unseen

In my almost 15 years of working with clients one thing has become very clear to me: most people today experience deep grief about losses unseen.

When most people think of grief, they think of a physical death: A family member or friend died and then a grief process begins.

Most people don’t realize grief is a process that arises from more than just death.

Death is simply the most tangible way we can conceptualize grief. When a person dies, they are no longer with us in body, and therefore, we believe we have experienced a loss. There is a direct, tangible, and measureable loss.

However, our lives are a constant series of losses:
Loss of a dream
Loss of a desire
Loss of our innocence
Loss of our hopes
Loss of our health
Loss of our child’s health
Loss of who we used to be
The list can go on and on.

Your Relationships As Mirrors

Relationships are great. They serve a wonderful purpose in our lives. Relationships help us feel like we are connected. They help us feel we are loved and we belong. Our relationships help us to feel good about ourselves…

That is, until they don’t help us feel that way anymore. 

When your relationships start to lose a sense of meaning and it feels like the love is lost, all of a sudden it can start to feel like life is losing its sense of meaning too.

What is Self-Sabotage, Really?

There was a time in the therapy world where we used to say people were “self-sabotaging” when they would do something to mess up life when it was going well. Over time we have begun to see it differently. Today, most people in the personal development and growth world would call these self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviors either limiting beliefs, or the upper limit problem.

Why Spirituality in Psychotherapy?

With over almost two decades of combined experience in blending psychotherapy and spirituality, our healers have demonstrated proven results in how spirituality and psychotherapy work to hand in hand to help our clients heal. 

Taking Time to Pause and Review

With the end of another year upon us, I invite us to take a moment to pause and review. Set aside some sacred time to reflect on where you have been and how far you have come. Then, celebrate yourself for your journey. Read more for ideas and suggestions to help you on your review. 

Outsourcing Our Power

What is "outsourcing our power" and happens when we do it?

We lose touch with the knowledge and the wisdom that resides within us.

Our bodies are powerful truth tellers and hold a ton of wisdom, as do we, when we allow ourselves to access the wisdom that resides within us.

The problem is, because most of us have not taken the time to cultivate deep and nourishing relationships with ourselves, we feel we can’t trust ourselves, or that we aren’t safe people to rely on for our own well-being. So, we turn to those outside others –other people, places, and things—for our safety and well-being.

Why Do People See Psychics Rather than Therapists?

We all want answers, so much so that the psychic industry is a multiBILLION dollar one. What makes them more popular than therapists? What might it be like to work with a therapist who has psychic and intutive gifts too?

What is Wholeness?

When you lose touch with your wholeness, you fall out of harmony with yourself, and you experience a feeling of brokenness, of incompletion, and physical and mental dis-eases as a result.

The process of becoming whole again is all about finding all of your lost (or exiled, shunned, excluded) parts and pieces, and getting to know them. Once you are able to hear their stories, hear what they have to say, they can then be healed and re-integrated into yourself, helping you return back to your wholeness, filling up your holes from the inside out.

Falling in Love with ALL of You

Falling in Love with ALL of You

Why is falling in love so difficult? It's because you don't know who you are.

It is when you start to get to know your parts, all your inner little children, and show them the love and attention they want, that they begin to heal, thus helping you come back into wholeness and revealing the true you, the balanced you, the aligned you. The you that is perfect, whole and complete.

Loving Yourself Means Knowing Yourself

How intimately do we really know ourselves? We spend so much time avoiding things about ourselves that we never truly take the time to get to know ourselves. Read more on how loving yourself is a process of getting to know yourself. 

Loving Yourself Means More than Just Manicures

How many times have you heard the words:
“Be sure to practice self-love!”
“Do you have self-love?” or
“How does your self-love look?”

If you’re anything like I used to be, I would wonder, “what the heck does that even mean?” You think you have self love. I mean, you love yourself enough to be here, right…? You love yourself enough to be reading articles about it…

Self love is a topic many people talk about and yet, few people truly understand.

Self love isn’t about going out and getting a mani-pedi or massage (although those are nice, too). Self love is a process and a journey that begins when we decide we are worthy of our own love and attention.

Disarming the Voices

Disarming the Voices

We all have voices in our head. The voices of our stories, the things we tell ourselves which we believe to be true. These stories we carry around with us make up the worlds that we live in.

“You’re too fat.”
“You’re too skinny.”
“You’re not pretty.”
“You’re useless.”
“You have nothing to offer.”
“You’re not worthy of love and affection.”
“You deserve to die miserable and alone.”

The Value of Personal Healing: As told by a healer

The Value of Personal Healing: As told by a healer

As a therapist, coach, and all around bad ass healer, sometimes I forget what it took to get here.

While I was on the phone with a new coach I recently hired for myself and she challenged me on mindset, I informed her that I have actually invested thousands of dollars over the past few years in working on my own personal development, healing, and growth. I knew I had done a lot of personal healing, I just hadn't realized how many tens of thousands of dollars I have spent in doing so. I felt the need to let her know.