Relationships

The BEST Secret for Getting Through the Holidays

Holiday season is upon us and this is the time of year where we can drive ourselves crazy trying to be everything to everyone, and fall into a lot of resentment while we are at it.

If you want to do things differently this year, rather than sitting on a resentment list, watch the video below and learn what you can do instead.

When You Want to Put Your Partner on Trial

Admit it, we have all been there… your partner does something to piss you off and you want to put them on trial!

You are the judge and the jury and there is absolutely no way your partner can win.

Conflict. Chaos. Disconnection. Distance growing between you two. That’s the only outcome of putting your partner on trial.

When you get the desire you put your partner on trial, this video shares what you can do instead.

When Your Partner Throws a Tantrum

How many times have you and your partner or spouse been in a conversation, it gets heated, and all of a sudden, one or the other of you is throwing a tantrum?

It seems to arise as though out of nowhere and before you know it, the whole conversation can turn into a knock out, drag down brawl.

I imagine most of you don’t feel good about treating your partner that way. This article will help you learn how to avoid getting into the ring or battlefield to begin with.

The Other Side of the Sour Date Night

In a previous blog we shared about the date night that went sour…here’s the flip side of the story:

“It’s been a long time since my wife and I have gone out. She hasn’t gotten dressed up and put on makeup for me in a long time. Not that that’s important, she’s beautiful without it, it’s just nice to have that extra special little something. I know she feels better when she puts on the makeup and gets dressed up, too; I notice a little extra pep in her step. I’m really looking forward to going out on the town with her tonight,” he thinks as he smiles to himself and settles into the couch to watch some football.

“She usually takes a while to get ready, so I’ll just watch some football and when she’s done, she can have a nice glass of wine and relax while I get cleaned up real fast. I don’t take nearly as long as she does.”

A little while later his wife comes out into the living room all dolled up and ready to go, first with a smile and within nanoseconds, her smile turns into a frown and she’s yelling at him.

The Date Night that Went Sour

It’s Saturday evening and you are getting ready to go out. You and your partner had agreed to go out to your favorite restaurant for dinner because it’s been a long time since you had been out on a date together. Your relationship was starting to get routine and the two of you remembered how much fun you used to have, so you have been looking forward to this all week long. You take a nice long shower, shave your legs, put on makeup, put on a flattering dress, spray your favorite perfume, and slip into some nice heels. You are all dolled up and ready to go…

Help, I Feel Like I'm 5 Again!

If you’ve been in a romantic relationship for any length of time you are probably familiar with the feeling of shifting from being lovey-dovey with your partner to thinking he or she is completely out to get you—and that shift can sometimes happen in a split second.  

If you’ve ever had this experience, you’re not alone.  

Almost everyone who has ever been in a romantic relationship has experienced this at some point in their relationship. When it happens, it’s usually related to the some issue you’ve had before:
Your partner didn’t put the cup in the sink, again!
Your partner left their socks in the middle of the room, again!
Your partner didn’t take the trash out to the street, again!
Your partner was out with their friends all night long, again!
Your partner’s mother invited herself over without letting you know, again!

If Your Relationship Triggers You, Here's Why...

One of the reasons we love working with relationships here at the Center for Soulful Relationships is because life is all about relationships. 

Relationships have the power to lift us up and bring us great joy. And, they also have the power to bring us down into the depths of despair. 

Our intimate romantic partnerships, especially, is where all the magic happens. 

If you feel like your relationship started off filled with love, you had an instant connection with your partner, the sparks flew, and it felt like you had known one another for years, the reality is: You probably have. 

If your relationships feel strained, this might be why

If your relationships feel strained, difficult, or leave you feeling less than pleased, this video might offer you some answers.

Watch the video on this blog to learn how your relationships are really mirrors for you and what that even means...

What is Loneliness?

Many of the clients who reach out to us for either individual therapy or couples counseling here at our San Jose psychotherapy office do so because they feel lonely in their lives and their relationships, despite being surrounded by loved ones.  

In our Get Acquainted Calls women seeking therapy share with us they have an intimate romantic partnership, yet for whatever reason, they feel lonely and disconnected. They describe a sense of feeling like their lives are on auto-pilot and the love and connection they once used to experience in their marriage or partnership feels like it is missing. These women crave the feeling of connection and intimacy they once shared with their partners.

Your Relationships As Mirrors

Relationships are great. They serve a wonderful purpose in our lives. Relationships help us feel like we are connected. They help us feel we are loved and we belong. Our relationships help us to feel good about ourselves…

That is, until they don’t help us feel that way anymore. 

When your relationships start to lose a sense of meaning and it feels like the love is lost, all of a sudden it can start to feel like life is losing its sense of meaning too.

What is Wholeness?

When you lose touch with your wholeness, you fall out of harmony with yourself, and you experience a feeling of brokenness, of incompletion, and physical and mental dis-eases as a result.

The process of becoming whole again is all about finding all of your lost (or exiled, shunned, excluded) parts and pieces, and getting to know them. Once you are able to hear their stories, hear what they have to say, they can then be healed and re-integrated into yourself, helping you return back to your wholeness, filling up your holes from the inside out.

The New Rules of Getting Over Unavailable Men

Ever feel like you need to create a bunch of rules after you break up with someone so that you don't reach out to them again and get your heart burned all over again? Yeah, you're not alone. Check out what singer-songwriter Dua Lipa has to say about it and her top rules to navigate these heart wrenching situations. 

Falling in Love with ALL of You

Falling in Love with ALL of You

Why is falling in love so difficult? It's because you don't know who you are.

It is when you start to get to know your parts, all your inner little children, and show them the love and attention they want, that they begin to heal, thus helping you come back into wholeness and revealing the true you, the balanced you, the aligned you. The you that is perfect, whole and complete.

Triple Whammy of Astrological Intensity: A time to Turn Inward

     Triple Whammy of Astrological Intensity: A time to Turn Inward

If you have been feeling any level of intensity these past couple weeks, especially this week in particular, you are not alone. 

Energetically and astrologically we have been in a sort of triple whammy. The planets and the skies, the moon, the energies, everything has been incredibly intense.