Mental Health

The Grief of Losses Unseen

In my almost 15 years of working with clients one thing has become very clear to me: most people today experience deep grief about losses unseen.

When most people think of grief, they think of a physical death: A family member or friend died and then a grief process begins.

Most people don’t realize grief is a process that arises from more than just death.

Death is simply the most tangible way we can conceptualize grief. When a person dies, they are no longer with us in body, and therefore, we believe we have experienced a loss. There is a direct, tangible, and measureable loss.

However, our lives are a constant series of losses:
Loss of a dream
Loss of a desire
Loss of our innocence
Loss of our hopes
Loss of our health
Loss of our child’s health
Loss of who we used to be
The list can go on and on.

Mothering Ourselves

With Mother’s Day having just passed, I thought it would be helpful to speak about the importance of mothering ourselves.  

Regardless of whether or not you have children, each and every one of you reading this has the responsibility of mothering. 

Why is that? 

Because each and every one of you has the responsibility of taking care of your own wants and needs.  

Most of the clients who reach out to us for help through individual therapy, and even couples counseling, at our San Jose office, are all looking for help with how to feel more love in their lives and their relationships.

Why Spirituality in Psychotherapy?

With over almost two decades of combined experience in blending psychotherapy and spirituality, our healers have demonstrated proven results in how spirituality and psychotherapy work to hand in hand to help our clients heal. 

Transformation in Therapy

Transformation in Therapy

Therapy is messy. However, if you do the work and you stick with it, you will come out the other side and then be able to look back on the beauty that was the journey. After all, in order for the caterpillar to turn into a butterfly, it has to digest itself and swim in a soup of its own organs in order to reemerge as that beautiful butterfly. 

The Message Inside Out Has for Us

The Message Inside Out Has for Us

Although the character in the movie is an 11 year old girl, the same principle applies to all of us:

We can be happy, healthy adults, loving our jobs, and having great success in all areas of our lives, but then something happens, perhaps our 3rd boyfriend in a row breaks up with us, and we can spiral down into the depths of despair that lead us to believe we are not good enough, not worthy enough, that there is something inherently wrong with us, and we turn to behaviors such as shopping, eating, drinking, or having random sex with people to help us manage the unmanageable feelings.