What is Self-Sabotage, Really?

There was a time in the therapy world where we used to say people were “self-sabotaging” when they would do something to mess up life when it was going well. Over time we have begun to see it differently. Today, most people in the personal development and growth world would call these self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviors either limiting beliefs, or the upper limit problem.

Mothering Ourselves

With Mother’s Day having just passed, I thought it would be helpful to speak about the importance of mothering ourselves.  

Regardless of whether or not you have children, each and every one of you reading this has the responsibility of mothering. 

Why is that? 

Because each and every one of you has the responsibility of taking care of your own wants and needs.  

Most of the clients who reach out to us for help through individual therapy, and even couples counseling, at our San Jose office, are all looking for help with how to feel more love in their lives and their relationships.

Why Spirituality in Psychotherapy?

With over almost two decades of combined experience in blending psychotherapy and spirituality, our healers have demonstrated proven results in how spirituality and psychotherapy work to hand in hand to help our clients heal. 

Taking Time to Pause and Review

With the end of another year upon us, I invite us to take a moment to pause and review. Set aside some sacred time to reflect on where you have been and how far you have come. Then, celebrate yourself for your journey. Read more for ideas and suggestions to help you on your review. 

When It's Not A Hallmark Holiday

During this time of year, Hallmark movies can give us unreasonable expectations of what the holidays "should" look like. We want you to know, not all holidays look like Hallmark holidays. When your holidays don't look like the Hallmark movies, here are some tips that can help. 

Outsourcing Our Power

What is "outsourcing our power" and happens when we do it?

We lose touch with the knowledge and the wisdom that resides within us.

Our bodies are powerful truth tellers and hold a ton of wisdom, as do we, when we allow ourselves to access the wisdom that resides within us.

The problem is, because most of us have not taken the time to cultivate deep and nourishing relationships with ourselves, we feel we can’t trust ourselves, or that we aren’t safe people to rely on for our own well-being. So, we turn to those outside others –other people, places, and things—for our safety and well-being.

Why Do People See Psychics Rather than Therapists?

We all want answers, so much so that the psychic industry is a multiBILLION dollar one. What makes them more popular than therapists? What might it be like to work with a therapist who has psychic and intutive gifts too?

What is Wholeness?

When you lose touch with your wholeness, you fall out of harmony with yourself, and you experience a feeling of brokenness, of incompletion, and physical and mental dis-eases as a result.

The process of becoming whole again is all about finding all of your lost (or exiled, shunned, excluded) parts and pieces, and getting to know them. Once you are able to hear their stories, hear what they have to say, they can then be healed and re-integrated into yourself, helping you return back to your wholeness, filling up your holes from the inside out.

The New Rules of Getting Over Unavailable Men

Ever feel like you need to create a bunch of rules after you break up with someone so that you don't reach out to them again and get your heart burned all over again? Yeah, you're not alone. Check out what singer-songwriter Dua Lipa has to say about it and her top rules to navigate these heart wrenching situations. 

Falling in Love with ALL of You

Falling in Love with ALL of You

Why is falling in love so difficult? It's because you don't know who you are.

It is when you start to get to know your parts, all your inner little children, and show them the love and attention they want, that they begin to heal, thus helping you come back into wholeness and revealing the true you, the balanced you, the aligned you. The you that is perfect, whole and complete.

Loving Yourself Means Knowing Yourself

How intimately do we really know ourselves? We spend so much time avoiding things about ourselves that we never truly take the time to get to know ourselves. Read more on how loving yourself is a process of getting to know yourself. 

Loving Yourself Means More than Just Manicures

How many times have you heard the words:
“Be sure to practice self-love!”
“Do you have self-love?” or
“How does your self-love look?”

If you’re anything like I used to be, I would wonder, “what the heck does that even mean?” You think you have self love. I mean, you love yourself enough to be here, right…? You love yourself enough to be reading articles about it…

Self love is a topic many people talk about and yet, few people truly understand.

Self love isn’t about going out and getting a mani-pedi or massage (although those are nice, too). Self love is a process and a journey that begins when we decide we are worthy of our own love and attention.