Your relationship matters to you even though it feels like it’s falling apart…

…Every time you try to fix things, you feel misunderstood.

Your words get twisted and you never feel like you can say or do anything right to satisfy your partner, even though you love them and want this relationship to work.

So you’ve started to just avoid the conversations, wander into another room alone, and hope that if you can fly under the radar, then maybe you will be able to survive this rough patch…

You try to do all the things to keep your partner happy but it seems to go unnoticed or unappreciated.

You love your kids, the life you were creating seemed laid out so nicely, and then you just can’t seem to feel like you matter to them.

It’s an awfully lonely place to be.

 
 

Through counseling, intensives and retreats, we help couples stop avoiding each other and start reconnecting to the love they really do desire with one another.

Many of the couples we see do this dance of avoiding and trying to please each other, in silence, never really knowing how to talk about what’s really going on.

We help them find the words.

What would your relationship look like if you could just sit down and talk it through?

What if you learned how to meet each others’ needs (without playing the guessing game), ask for what you need and actually enjoy being together again?

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If you want to do things differently this year, rather than sitting on a resentment list, watch the video below and learn what you can do instead.

When You Want to Put Your Partner on Trial

Admit it, we have all been there… your partner does something to piss you off and you want to put them on trial!

You are the judge and the jury and there is absolutely no way your partner can win.

Conflict. Chaos. Disconnection. Distance growing between you two. That’s the only outcome of putting your partner on trial.

When you get the desire you put your partner on trial, this video shares what you can do instead.

How to Communicate with Your Partner

We’ve all done it: thinking we are communicating clearly and when the wires somehow get crossed, we find ourselves in the midst of a miscommunication.

If you’ve ever experienced a miscommunication with your partner, this video blog will give you tips on how you can communicate more effectively together.

Dealing with Your Partner's Moods

As a result of being human, all of us experience different moods. Sometimes those moods are positive and help us to feel good, which we share with others helping spread the feeling of feeling good.

And sometimes those moods are not so good and can feel like a dark cloud hanging over not only us, but at times, everyone we touch.

Moods are contagious. Happiness is contagious just as much as sadness is contagious.

When you find your partner in a dark, unsettling, or unhappy mood, it can take us everything we’ve got not to get down in it with them…
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If you enjoyed reading about what to do when your partner has a tantrum, you will love watching this video enactment of what is actually happening when the tantrum strikes.

When Your Partner Throws a Tantrum

How many times have you and your partner or spouse been in a conversation, it gets heated, and all of a sudden, one or the other of you is throwing a tantrum?

It seems to arise as though out of nowhere and before you know it, the whole conversation can turn into a knock out, drag down brawl.

I imagine most of you don’t feel good about treating your partner that way. This article will help you learn how to avoid getting into the ring or battlefield to begin with.
The Other Side of the Sour Date Night

In a previous blog we shared about the date night that went sour…here’s the flip side of the story:

“It’s been a long time since my wife and I have gone out. She hasn’t gotten dressed up and put on makeup for me in a long time. Not that that’s important, she’s beautiful without it, it’s just nice to have that extra special little something. I know she feels better when she puts on the makeup and gets dressed up, too; I notice a little extra pep in her step. I’m really looking forward to going out on the town with her tonight,” he thinks as he smiles to himself and settles into the couch to watch some football.

“She usually takes a while to get ready, so I’ll just watch some football and when she’s done, she can have a nice glass of wine and relax while I get cleaned up real fast. I don’t take nearly as long as she does.”

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If you and your partner have ever had a date night go sour, you will want to watch this video. In it, our lead couples therapist explains what might have happened and how we can help.

The Date Night that Went Sour

It’s Saturday evening and you are getting ready to go out. You and your partner had agreed to go out to your favorite restaurant for dinner because it’s been a long time since you had been out on a date together. Your relationship was starting to get routine and the two of you remembered how much fun you used to have, so you have been looking forward to this all week long. You take a nice long shower, shave your legs, put on makeup, put on a flattering dress, spray your favorite perfume, and slip into some nice heels. You are all dolled up and ready to go…

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If you’ve been in a romantic relationship for any length of time you are probably familiar with the feeling of shifting from being lovey-dovey with your partner to thinking he or she is completely out to get you—and that shift can sometimes happen in a split second.  

If you’ve ever had this experience, you’re not alone.  

Almost everyone who has ever been in a romantic relationship has experienced this at some point in their relationship. When it happens, it’s usually related to the some issue you’ve had before:
Your partner didn’t put the cup in the sink, again!
Your partner left their socks in the middle of the room, again!
Your partner didn’t take the trash out to the street, again!
Your partner was out with their friends all night long, again!
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