As you watch the news, read headlines in the papers, and scroll through your Facebook feed, you might be feeling sad, hopeless, and angry and afraid at what is happening in our country today.

Children are being separated from their families, sometimes taken from their parents arms, and placed in modern day internment camps. Children and families are being traumatized. Families are being torn apart. Innocents are being hurt, both in the short and long term.

If you feel sad, angry, hopeless, and afraid, you are feeling the emotions which are appropriate for a terrible situation such as this.

 And while there is external work in the world to be done, I want to invite you to consider the internal work that needs to also be done within each one of us as well.

If your relationships feel strained, difficult, or leave you feeling less than pleased, this video might offer you some answers.

Watch the video on this blog to learn how your relationships are really mirrors for you and what that even means...

Many of the clients who reach out to us for either individual therapy or couples counseling here at our San Jose psychotherapy office do so because they feel lonely in their lives and their relationships, despite being surrounded by loved ones.  

In our Get Acquainted Calls women seeking therapy share with us they have an intimate romantic partnership, yet for whatever reason, they feel lonely and disconnected. They describe a sense of feeling like their lives are on auto-pilot and the love and connection they once used to experience in their marriage or partnership feels like it is missing. These women crave the feeling of connection and intimacy they once shared with their partners.

Relationships are great. They serve a wonderful purpose in our lives. Relationships help us feel like we are connected. They help us feel we are loved and we belong. Our relationships help us to feel good about ourselves…

That is, until they don’t help us feel that way anymore. 

When your relationships start to lose a sense of meaning and it feels like the love is lost, all of a sudden it can start to feel like life is losing its sense of meaning too.

There was a time in the therapy world where we used to say people were “self-sabotaging” when they would do something to mess up life when it was going well. Over time we have begun to see it differently. Today, most people in the personal development and growth world would call these self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviors either limiting beliefs, or the upper limit problem.

With Mother’s Day having just passed, I thought it would be helpful to speak about the importance of mothering ourselves.  

Regardless of whether or not you have children, each and every one of you reading this has the responsibility of mothering. 

Why is that? 

Because each and every one of you has the responsibility of taking care of your own wants and needs.  

Most of the clients who reach out to us for help through individual therapy, and even couples counseling, at our San Jose office, are all looking for help with how to feel more love in their lives and their relationships.

With over almost two decades of combined experience in blending psychotherapy and spirituality, our healers have demonstrated proven results in how spirituality and psychotherapy work to hand in hand to help our clients heal. 

With the end of another year upon us, I invite us to take a moment to pause and review. Set aside some sacred time to reflect on where you have been and how far you have come. Then, celebrate yourself for your journey. Read more for ideas and suggestions to help you on your review. 

During this time of year, Hallmark movies can give us unreasonable expectations of what the holidays "should" look like. We want you to know, not all holidays look like Hallmark holidays. When your holidays don't look like the Hallmark movies, here are some tips that can help. 

Saying yes to ourselves can be one of the hardest things we learn to do for ourselves. And, it is one of the most important tools we can learn to cultivate in our self-care tool box.